Comments on: New York Times Launches Blog on Caregiving http://phinational.org/archives/popular-blog-offers-window-on-the-world-of-family-caregivers/ PHI works to improve long-term care -- by improving the jobs of home health aides, certified nurse aides, & personal care attendants. Thu, 20 Nov 2008 16:21:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7-beta3-9750 hourly 1 By: Lori A. Biskner http://phinational.org/archives/popular-blog-offers-window-on-the-world-of-family-caregivers/comment-page-1/#comment-749 Lori A. Biskner Tue, 08 Jul 2008 19:43:57 +0000 http://phinational.org/archives/popular-blog-offers-window-on-the-world-of-family-caregivers/#comment-749 Wow!! I have been a Care-giver for a long time and most of that time I have had the graditude of most, but there are some that just give you hell all the time. They can't and won't do the job, but they expect the aide to give 600% and act like a servant, period and be greatful for being treated like that. I tell them; "I am an aide, not a maid." To me that means that I give care to the person first and if the house chores get done they get done, the person comes first. If you want me to do the windows and clean the gutters you pay more or get someone else to do it while I care for the elderly person that they won't care for. I hate it when they think I'm there to do moving and window cleaning and taking care of their children, dogs, cats and other creatures that don't belong to the elderly. Or how about entertaining their guests and putting on a dinner for cousins or other siblings? It drives me crazy. I'm there for their parent or grandparent, not for them!!! Wow!! I have been a Care-giver for a long time and most of that time I have had the graditude of most, but there are some that just give you hell all the time. They can’t and won’t do the job, but they expect the aide to give 600% and act like a servant, period and be greatful for being treated like that.

I tell them; “I am an aide, not a maid.” To me that means that I give care to the person first and if the house chores get done they get done, the person comes first. If you want me to do the windows and clean the gutters you pay more or get someone else to do it while I care for the elderly person that they won’t care for. I hate it when they think I’m there to do moving and window cleaning and taking care of their children, dogs, cats and other creatures that don’t belong to the elderly. Or how about entertaining their guests and putting on a dinner for cousins or other siblings? It drives me crazy.

I’m there for their parent or grandparent, not for them!!!

]]> By: Valerie http://phinational.org/archives/popular-blog-offers-window-on-the-world-of-family-caregivers/comment-page-1/#comment-710 Valerie Fri, 04 Jul 2008 13:10:36 +0000 http://phinational.org/archives/popular-blog-offers-window-on-the-world-of-family-caregivers/#comment-710 On July 1st I became a caregiver for my 81 yeaer old sister. I suspect that there are thousands of people out there who are in the same boat. On July 1st I became a caregiver for my 81 yeaer old sister. I suspect that there are thousands of people out there who are in the same boat.

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